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Monday, January 11, 2010

Why do Girls Pick on Girls?

Well guys sorry for this post, but I am a Lifetime Mommy!  My hubby wishes I didn't watch it, but I just can't help it.  I watch it all the time. 

There is a show on tonight called "Odd Girl Out".  Oh wow, how I felt that way when I was her age.  I more than ever felt like the Odd Girl Out and all the girls were talking about me and making fun of me.  My middle school and high school years, I hated more than anything.  I only had a few select really good friends which I still talk to today, but then the others just giggled at me, called me "Four Eye Freak" or "Nerd" or whatever else there was.

Fast forward to today.  Looking back at those days, I could care less about any of that, but now that I have three girls of my own I worry of them ever feeling like the "Odd Girl Out".  I remember talking with my mom about how I felt back then and then to listen to her now about how this made her feel, I probably will be the same way.  I just hate to see someone hurting from pain of being picked on when they shouldn't ever have to endure that.  To me, we are all equal!

Are there any mom's out there currently going through this?  I am just interested in how you are handling it.

Mind you, I am not going through this currently, but I just remember going through this when I was young and seriously hope that my girls do not go through this or anyone else out there has to go through this.

10 comments:

Pumpkin Bear said...

I worry about this too so I will be interested to see if anyone else has some insight.

dannyscotland said...

I was also the one left out as a young girl. I had one best friend through elementary school, and even now I have a small close group of friends. As an elementary teacher, I would see this happening to girls in my classes. I did what I could to prevent it, but it is nearly impossible to "make" other girls be nice. I remember one girl particularly who was very left out. We used to talk about it, and I did my best to reassure her that I was doing what I could, but also that things would get better for her. I just did what I could to prevent it when possible, and to console when I couldn't stop it. It was a horrible feeling to watch this happening and to have almost no power over it. Forcing them to be "friends" doesn't work. It just makes the mean ones meaner. I hope it doesn't happen to my daughter, and I hope I do a good job raising her to be kind to everyone, no matter what.

yonca said...

So true and well said. Thanks for the follow. I'm following your lovely blog now:) Have a wonderful day!

I'm NOT a VOLCANO! said...

I was the odd one out and the nerd too! Following from MBC!

Together We Save said...

Oh I have teenagers and this is such a problem! Great insite.

Amy said...

I worry about this too. My daughter is almost 3, so we won't be going through that for awhile (hopefully never).

I'm following you and hope you'll follow me too.

prerna said...

Oh boy.. I always worry about this and while I never faced it as such.. as the mom of a daughter, I sometimes do think of how things would be once she starts school. I see girls be so competitive and nasty to other girls.. I'll be glad to know why they are like that..

Anonymous said...

I know this might sound far fetched but I was the girl that would always talk to the one that others made fun of. I was never in the upper class or click but I wasn't in the lower part either. But I would always go to the person not included and include them. But in sports I was always picked first or the captain. But I guess I try to treat people as I want to be treated.

I guess it is the way I was raised. I hope my kids will be the same.

sheri said...

I honestly believe the only way to stop this is to raise our daughters to be pure of heart, kind and loving. The more of us who do this the better off all of our girls will be now and in the future. We must also make sure we are living this ourselves, everyday. After all, they learn from our example.

JamericanSpice said...

I haven't watched that one as yet but have seen it advertised.

I too worry for my children in this regards because there are children out there who have no moral compass to live by and are very cruel.

I just hope that I can give my kids the love, strength and confidence they'll need to stand strong and not be beaten down.